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Tuesday, January 29, 2019

Compare and Contrast of “From a Secret Sorrow” and “A Sorrowful Woman” Essay

In the short twaddle From a Secret Sorrow by Karen Van Der omega a char who struggles to tell her fianc a lawfulness that is killing her inside. The story focuses on two principal(prenominal) characters, Faye and Kai. Faye is a fair sex who thought that the world was over for her after(prenominal) finding out she was uninspired. Faye had no idea on how to communicate such horr block offous news to Kai, her fianc. She was afraid(p) that her Kai was going to leave her and find soul else. She whence lettuceed acting weird, nervous, and distanced herself from him. Her fianc questi whizzd her round a none he make up, Faye immediately recognized that it was the note the atomic number 101 gave her and with a terrified voice asked How did you energize that? (31). Finding out that she was infertile made her felt sorrowfulness and manage she was the and one who had the regenerate to be upset. She thought that Kai was not going to hunch her any(prenominal) more than simp ly it was the new(prenominal) way nearly. Kai seemed like he was sincerely in savour with her and cared closely her. He urgencyed to let her know that whatever the occupation was she was not alone, that it was not only her difficulty and that they get out work to get elaborateher, thusly eventually get unite. But Faye would not listen, she also love him so often that she would turn over rather let him go instead of ruination his life with her knowing she is infertile. She knew he would be extremely disappointed and she told Kai that he had the choice to leave her and marry someone else. Kai continuously kept reiterate Faye how much he loves her. Kai then asked wherefore should I be disappointed, Faye? wherefore?(Van Der Zee 33). She felt like her heart thundering in her ears, she seemed like she was going to dr have got like if she could not breathe. Then she said Because because I cant give you children Because I cant get pregnant I cant have babies Thats why(Van D er Zee 33). Kai after the shocking secret that was been kept from him He stared at her as if he had never seen her before (Van Der Zee 33). Faye with her legs shaking, shortness of lively and all these things on her head responsibilityful(prenominal) ran away. Faye seems to struggle with some figure of insecurity issues with her economise. After she ran away, Kai calls her house extremely worried about where she was just to make sure she got on that point safe. Chuck, someone who lived at home answers the holler and said that she was home fine. No matter how upset he was about what he just found out, he called to make sure she was safe.A few minutes after she got home, Kai showed up to her room quietly, without knocking the door, and sit down next to her. He put his arms around her and drew her against him and in a quietly voice said Faye, please marry me (Van Der Zee 34). Kai was obviously surprised for what Faye had told him, but he seemed to still care more about her than the fact that she cannot have children. However, Faye said No she stands up from the distinguish and got away from him. Faye felt like she was not enough for him because of the fact that she could not get pregnant. After moments of discussions Kai made her understand that it was not just her problem, that it was their problem as a couple. Faye still doubtfully said how can I ever believe it? and Kai replay Look at me, Faye. No other adult female can give me what you can- yourself, your love, your warmth, your sense of humor. (36). After Faye explained him denomination for word what the doctor said to her she said So you see we slangt have to hope for any miracles Kai smiled and said well make our own miracles (36). He then grabs her and kissed her. All of a sudden Kai went to her closet, opened the suitcases and began to snooze all her clothes, he also opened the drawers, and in like mannerk out all her things. Faye lost(p) asks What are you doing? Kai ignore her for a m in and then said get dressed. Were going home Faye Home? Yes home- where you belong. With me in my house, in my rear in my arms (37). Kai had enough frustration with e precisething that had happened that he does not want to risk having any more problems. Youre coming with me now. And Im not letting you out my persuasion until were safely married (37). Kai prose that if they cant have children, there are a fate of orphanages all over the world with children in need of a family. Faye he said Your my starting signal and only choice (38).Kai and Faye adopted 3 children, a male child a two girls. I seems like they were from Vietnam because she say they had minuscular faces and large dark eyes full of fright. It was noticeable the tragedies of war, death and leanness in their eyes. Time passed and everything seem to be working out, the kids faces are full of joy as well as Kais eyes. Faye deeply inside knew that she was everything to Kai, To hi, she was the only woman, beautiful, perfect(a), whole (38). The story A piteous Women by Gail Godwin describes a woman that seems to be exhausted of her family and life. Unlike the first story, this is about a married couple who already have a child. The narrator does not give names to the characters and he/she engages on a third person role to tell the story. This story carries a depressing, worrying and dark mood. The wife, one night tells her hubby if he could put the boy to bed and read him the story about the monkey who ate too many bananas(39) since she was already tired of doing all the work at home. The hubby thought she just needed a break, and he assume that theres nothing wrong with the idea of taking care of the child, and then he happily agreed to take care of the kid. Since that evening the hubby noticed that his wife was being very distant from him his child. He notices that the understanding of why she was so depressed was probably because of the child. The child was the one who brought he r to this re-create of sadness, to the point where she began to show aggressiveness in her and the people around her. The sight of her husband made her sad. One night as she looked at the child, she began yip without tears, retching in between (Godwin 41). Her husband takes her into his arms and he shows he had complete control over the situation. Her husband wants to find out what is wrong with her, and what he could do to make her feel better. In this story the husband portrays a divers(prenominal) type of control that was showed in the first story From a Secret Sorrow. In a sorrowful woman the husband showed an understanding control, while Kais control is that he solves the problems. As the story goes on the Husband tries to assure his wife that he understand what shes going through. While in the other story Kai tells Faye that his that he would never know how she really feels but he could analyse and help her.In A Sorrow Woman the man behaves as if he is the shielder of the woman, as if she is his queen I and he did anything that he could to keep her happy. The husband takes over her roles of the wife in the house, but he man briefly got tired of all the thing he was doing at home and he decided to hired a girl to help out. The wife after seeing how the maiden was doing everything for them and giving her child the love and attention he deserved she decided to fire her because she felt jealous. She did not want anyone to be affectionate with the child it seems as if she even wanted the kid to maintain for something unexplained. She wanted the foul up to feel alone, to not have anyone care for him or to show love towards him. Firing the maid is so selfish on the wifes part because according to the book the girls upsets me (41), but really what made her upset was the love and care the girl was providing to her child and husband. Something she originally said she could not handle anymore. The wife was tired of seeing someone else do what she could not do herself. The girl who cried and said I loved the little boy, what will become of him now? (41). in this quote one could suggest that the boy was left alone, without love and attention. As if the girl knew the baby was going to suffer. The maid knew the take did not want him or cared for him anymore, so she wanted her to think it over, to make sure if she really wanted the maid to leave. After the maid left the husband was the one to replace her, to go grocery shopping, to clean the house, to take care of his son and overall to do the things the maid was in charge of. The woman depression kept on getting bigger and bigger as time pass. She decided to race to the white room downstairs where the girl used to stay. She pretty much isolated herself from her family and everyone. The white room symbolizes emptiness, been unloved and voided by others. The woman as time passed did not even went out of the room anymore and everything had to be brought to her. Few weeks after been i n the room, she woke up and decided to go and qualify her kitchen and realized that everything look different New dish towels. The canisters seemed closer to the sink, a new brand of butter (Godwin, 43).The woman cooked, clean the house and did the washables all in that same day, two weeks worth of work in just a couple of hours. After all the work the woman did she felt how her veins pumped and her forehead sparkled. Then she opens the cupboard and took what was hers (Godwin, 43). When the man and the boy came home and found cooked food, the house clean and all the laundry swear out they were extremely surprise. The husband excited ran to the little white room and found her, the little boy said Look, Mommy is sleeping, the father right away notice that was not really sleeping. The father lay down on the bed and his face into her fresh-washed hair (Godwin, 43) In this story the mother was obviously tired of the role of a housewife. She became so distant with her family up to the point that she isolated herself in a little room downstairs. She doomed the children for feeling the way she feels. She did not wanted anyone to give the child love because for her he basically ruined her life. She loved her husband but at time she felt like she was not part of the family. At the end she decided to cook and clean the house for the last time and then took her own life. In Both stories A heartrending Woman and A Secret Sorrow the narrator talks about a woman who struggle to fit in their family environment. They portray unhappiness in their lives and how this is touch on them. The tittle of the two stories fix perfectly since the musical composition of two deals around sorrowful emotions. Even both narrators have the same idea of sorrow they express it in different ways. For example in A Sorrowful Woman the woman The stories have the titles that deals with sorrow to show the main theme of the stories that revolve around sorrowful feelings (Godwin). In A Sorrow ful Woman, the woman appears not to be identified. She experiences sorrowful emotions in her family, whereby she does not even utter with the family members. Contrary to the first story, in A Secret Sorrow, Faye, the main character of the story, appears to be unhappy because of the fact that she could not conceive any children.Thus, the main difference in the both stories is the fact that Faye dreams about a family, which the unidentified woman in the Gails story already has. They both experience sorrow for various fences in the family set up (Zee). It is very important to clearly see the differences between these two stories. One cleverness judge the stories by the title, by the fact that they both have to do with sorrow. That cannot be done because these two stories acquaint us with totally different types of sorrowful situations. The women from the two stories have very different reason for their fear and sorrow. Faye, from the first story mourns over the fact that she will no t be able to have her own kids and if she marries Kai then she will be a disappointment to him for her inability. In the befriend story the woman fears of her role as a wife, she decides that she has had enough of raising a child. She wants to abandon her duties as a wife and become carefree person as she once was. She wants to start loving herself over anyone else, to live a self-centered life doing things that she wants to do. The reason she killed herself was because of the lonesomeness and worthlessness she felt living her life for herself. The men support their women in very different ways. Had the man from the second story support his wife same as Kai support Faye, his wife expertness have gotten better and returned to her family. Kai supported Faye in two very important ways, physically, and emotionally. Physically, Kai supported her with his strong bronze hands that represent strength and endurance. Kai supported her emotionally by repetition of the fact that he loves her and that no matter what they will go through this together. In the second story, the man supports his wife only physically as he carries her, undresses her, brings her drought. If only the man in the second story tried to connect with her emotionally, try to talk with her about how she feels, and try to find ways how to solve this problem without going public, he might have made her feel needed.

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